Change is good until it happens to you and then you’re forced to reconcile with it. In our heads, we often think ‘change is good for someone else’ and from the outside looking in, you might say to that person, ‘you needed a change.’ But when change is staring us in the face and we can’t do anything about it, we have absolutely no control over it, and we can’t stop it — we are sometimes less enthusiastic about the change we were excitedly advocating for someone else.
Why is change hard? I think change is hard because underneath it is anger and fear. Anger that things are changing without your personal input and fear of how things will change, fear that our complacency and comfort will be disrupted in ways we aren’t ready for, fear that we’re losing something, or fear of the unknown.
Change is going to happen no matter what, whether it’s forced or it’s your decision. But today, what I have decided, is to accept a different attitude toward change and a different perspective rather than anger. I’m choosing to be grateful for the experience— the past experience before the change showed up. Without that experience, I couldn’t be where I am now, physically and mentally. I’m deciding to be appreciative for the change itself. I was initially upset that change was being forced upon me and upset that it wasn’t my decision but when I took a minute to really think about the change and why I was upset, I realized I didn’t mind the change after all. I fought for what I wanted to keep and the rest, well it can sort itself out in the universe.
You always know and feel when something has run its course and when it’s time to move on to something else. Maybe you reach your breaking point before you’re ready to actually abandon but many times, feeling ready and change presenting itself are two things that happen in sync. If that’s the case, then what’s left for you to do is to just be grateful and tell God and the universe, ‘thank you.’
You could realize that you’re in the space or the experience for a reason, God purposely put you there to be a light, joy, inspiration, and to make a positive difference in some way. You can accept the change that’s coming with excitement and excited anticipation because you’re not losing anything. You will gain more peace of heart, mind and soul and that’s something you can genuinely smile about. You made the contribution you ware supposed to make. You learned an enormous amount, you made long-lasting friendships and relationships, and most of all, you’re leaving a good legacy, hopefully.
